Saturday, April 18, 2009
The Secret Society Of Moms
Let me start out by telling you a little bit about myself. I've never been one to follow the crowd. I've never been one to click with just one group of people. In high school where everyone was clicking. I was socializing with every click imaginable. Some of my old high school friends still mention how I was friends with everyone and tease me till this day. I enjoyed being a social butterfly and still do.
Now to the point of this post. First of all let me say that I love being a mom. It's the most amazing job in the world, yet the hardest job there is. Last September I enrolled my little one in preschool. I was really looking forward to taking this journey with my toddler. Little did I know that I was about to be sucked into this secret society of the moms. Now, I know you moms out there know what I'm talking about. Just in case you don't, let me explain. The secret society that I'm speaking of is the moms out there that are in the biggest competition of their life's. For example, the mom that brags about their child till no end. I understand bragging about your child is natural, but does it have to be every sentence that leaves your mouth.? Don't get me wrong, I love to talk about my little girl. It just would be nice to talk about something else for a change. It gets a little tiring talking about potty training, tantrums and teething 24/7. Lets try and talk about something with some substance. Let's get our brains going girls! Every mom thinks their child is perfect, but I'm sorry no child or human being is perfect. Am I right? Then there's the mom who will top any story that you have about your child. Their child did the same very thing, but they did it better. What's up with this competition thing? I'm just so not into that. I've come across a few moms that won't let their little girls play with little boys. Does it really matter? My gosh, the kids are only 4 years old. What's up with that? I've even had parents invite only the girls in my daughter's class to their little girls birthday party's. Boys are not welcome. They even ignorantly gave out the birthday invitations in front of the uninvited children in class. Of course the children who weren't invited knew what was going on, and of course were extremely hurt. Now to the clicking situation. The mom's at my daughter's school seem to have there own little clicks going on and they don't seem to want to invite new members to their group. One of the mom's is such a snob that if she thinks you have money or are well off, then she's your best friend. If she thinks your not good enough for her, she wont' ever give you the time a day. I seriously feel like I'm back in high school again. I can't stress enough that I love being a mom, but I'm not enjoying this new social mommy world that I've been sucked into. It's extremely tiring to deal with. I'm 39 and I just don't have the energy or the time for this drama. All this craziness makes me want to pull my hair out. Maybe I'm being insensitive. I just can't help it. It's how I feel. The few mom's that I've become friends with feel the same way I do. They don't enjoy this secret society of moms either and have noticed the clicking and snobbishness going on.
On a positive note, I have met a few mom's that I really like. We have similar interest and enjoy each others company. We have been getting together often. It's fun to get together and have a play date. The kids play and we get to have our me time. It's nice to talk to another adult once in a while. Of course husband's don't count. LOL!! I'm with my 4 year old 24/7 and it gets kind of mind altering without some adult contact. My husband works long days and I'm usually the one to take care of my little one most of the time. Maybe I'm the one being a snob about this new social society that I've entered. Maybe these stay at home moms have nothing better to do but revert back to high school habits. It just seems crazy to me. I've definitely met some very interesting parents on this preschool journey. I'll be happy when preschool is over and my little one starts kindergarten in the fall. Maybe it will be different. Have any of you parents out there experienced anything like this? I'd sure like your input.
Thanks for stopping by and listening to me ramble.