Thursday, May 14, 2009

Update On Her Eyes



I know it's been a while since I talked about my little one's surgery with her lazy eyes. We got the final diagnosis a few weeks ago. I guess I had to give myself some time to digest all this news before I could blog about it. We were told by the pediatric ophthalmologist a few weeks ago that the glasses my little one has been wearing since February have not strengthened her eye muscles at all. It was a huge disappointment for us. We were hoping that we could avoid the surgery, but that's just not the case. We have decided to opt for surgery. When my little one looks at something close up, such as a book, her poor eyes cross in. It's just not one eye, it's both of her eyes. It's not a constant crossing, but it happens frequently through the day. She told me a few days ago that she sees two of mommy when this happens. Just those few words from my 4 year olds mouth helped me make the toughest decision of my life. Dang, it's hard being a parent when you have to make tough choices like this. I wasn't sure at first that I wanted to put her through this, but I don't think I have a choice now. Having two crossed eyes will for sure effect her education and her self esteem down the road. If I don't agree to the surgery I will be doing her a great injustice. I know in my heart it's better to have the surgery done while she is still young. There's a better chance of success with the eyes staying straight. So, I finally scheduled the surgery for June 8th and I'm completely terrified. The hospital is one of the best pediatric hospitals in the state, but I just can't help but worry. That's a mothers right. Right? I know things will work out. Please keep your fingers crossed and keep her in your prayers and thoughts. Thanks so much for taking time to stop by today.


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18 comments:

  1. I hope the surgery will be successful. I'm sure your daughter will be in good hands. It does suck when we parents have to make a tough decision about our kids health. hang in there

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  2. I fully understand what you are going through. My daughter had hip reconstruction surgery last September and October. It was the most difficult, most heart breaking experience of my entire life.
    (All is better now, thankfully...)

    It isn't easy to cope with the stress of having a child who needs to undergo a surgical procedure.

    You WILL get through this. You are far more stronger than you ever knew you could be. Trust in yourself and know that you can and will handle this situation with a great deal of strength and courage.

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  3. I'm sorry it worked out that way for you. But you're making the right decision. It's hard being a mom- we worry so much and second guess every decision we make. I'll definitely be thinking of you and your family and praying too.

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  4. She look good with the eyeglasses, kids really do look matured when they wear eye glasses, same with my 8 year old niece she wears one too.

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  5. aww.. its always hard.. but always remember God is in control! God is with you through it all.

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  6. We moms worry a lot, even with just a scratch. And I know how you must feel with that tough decision. I'll be praying for your little one. :)

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  7. I also hate these tough situations/decisions as a parent. It's awful to see a child going through something hard. But good luck to both of you :)

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  8. That is such a hard decision you're making, but like you said, It is better to do it right now than later on in her life. Kids recover from things much better than adults.

    I will be praying for your little one.

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  9. Michelle,

    I marked that day on my calendar so I can pray for your little one all day!! I know she will do great and the surgery will be a success!

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  10. BEST OF LUCK, I hope the surgery corrects the problem.

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  11. I can really hear your apprehension. When I get like that I just say a little prayer for God to take the worry from me and be with the surgeons and my little one. Oh yeah, I do this repeatedly as the scary thoughts run through my head, it really does ease my concerns. He is in control and is merciful and loving -His love for her is stronger than your love for her... if that's possible.

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  12. Awww It IS hard to make those difficult decisions - and you have every right to change your mind 5,287 times. Go ahead and vent - it will keep you sane. I'm sure she will be fine, but I'm not her mom. I went through similar emotions every time one of my kids had tubes put in their ears, hernia surgery, or a bronchoscopy to retrieve a peanut. Scary stuff...and every time I was sure I could do a much better job than the surgeon, since I loved my child more than the surgeon did. (Even tho I'd have no clue what I was doing.)

    Take a deep breath - and try really hard not to let your fears transfer to her. Can you tour the hospital with her? Even if it isn't a formal tour, just going and looking may help. Check out some books on eye surgery (or surgery in general) - it will calm both of you. Have the dr or nurse explain everything to both of you.

    A lot of times, it's the fear of the unknown that is the scariest.

    My fingers are crossed and it's on my calendar - I will be sure to check back on you guys. I know things will be fine - you're a great mom and she's in the best hands possible.

    xx
    Katherine

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  13. I am sorry that the glasses didn't fix the issue. She's such a little sweetheart, there should be a rule that no kids should have to go through stuff like this!!! But I am sure she will do fine and will thank you in the future. You guys will be in my prayers!!!!

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  14. I am so very sorry the glasses did not work out. :(

    June 8th. June 8th. I will burn that day in my memory and be saying prayers and sending well wishes to you and your little girl on that day...

    What a tough decision to be faced with.. I hope you take comfort in the expertise of the doctors at the great children's hospital that you spoke of.. I am sure your daughter will be in excellent hands.. and she has the best Mommy that she could have, so she will be just fine.

    ((hugs)) to you and your sweet girl!

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  15. I hope the operation will be successful and that your daughter's eye problem will be fixed for good.

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  16. I know how you feel. My ds had to go in for an emergency appendectomy a couple of weeks ago, and it was hard. He was in so much pain and even though I went through it too at the same age, I worried.

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  17. I am turning 40 this year and I had surgery for 1 lazy eye when I was 6. I think my mom was more worried than I was.

    I'm sure everything will turn out fine, but I totally understand worrying about your child!

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  18. Children are more prone to eye injury than adults and impact resistant lenses can make the difference should trauma occur to or near the eye.

    It’s difficult for a parent to make decisions when it comes to their child. Hoping and praying for the best.

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